...thoughts on Jesus' obedience...

Although He (Jesus) was a Son, He learned obedience through what He suffered.
(Hebrews 5:8)

Jesus' choice to act in obedience as the Suffering Servant was His choice to be looked upon and treated by the Father as though He was thoroughly disobedient.

Jesus' choice to act in submission to the will of the Father was His choice to be looked upon and treated by the Father as though He was thoroughly rebellious.

For our sake He (God, the Father) made Him (Jesus) to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Him (Jesus) we might become the righteousness of God.
(2 Corinthians 5:21)